It’s been already two weeks that we have entered 2017. However, since this is my first post of the year, I will start it with congratulating all of you and wishing a year filled with positive emotions.
Although I haven’t written anything lately, I was constantly reading numerous articles written by others. Guess what were the topics that I encountered the most.
“How to become more successful”, “How to increase your productivity” and “The importance of doing the first two”.
If I were to write this piece at the beginning of 2016, most probably, I would also combine these two topics to write a typical article; semi-motivational, semi-inspirational. For this year though, I have completely different resolutions that deal with fulfillment, harmony and joy, rather than accomplishments of any kind.
Why did I reviewed my priorities?
Well, let me tell you my story of 2016.
As the year began, I was full of determination and ambitions to make it unique and have as many achievements as possible. It’s worth to mention here, that, by then, I was pretty good at maintaining a work/life balance, trying new things and exhibiting excellent results. Yet, it appeared not enough to me. Hence, I decided to develop a comprehensive and rather ambitious to-do list for the year . It included random tasks, such as to learn programming languages, reach fluency in French, maintain a GPA of 4 while working part time, etc. The good part is that I actually accomplished all of these tasks and even various others, the costs were high though. I was at the edge of a nervous breakdown and experienced several instances of burnouts throughout the year.
The reason was not the fact that I was overworking- I did remain pretty social and managed to complete everything in time with no panic. The issue was that I was overthinking and overplanning constantly. The more I completed, the more goals I put behind me. Soon, I didn’t even know where I was heading off and why I was doing it. Success had become a kind of obsession for me; I couldn’t break off.
Finding myself in this situation, I started contemplating more on the concepts of success, productivity and the reasons those have become synonymous with happiness.
Accomplishments and success are addictive. It’s difficult to get started. Once you commence though, you just can’t stop- it’s like gambling, in a way. You might think it’s actually good and, a year ago, I would agree, but…
Of course, it’s important to get started; put goals and achieve them. However, the moment you forget why you started, it becomes a nightmare. This is the moment you should just step back for a while. You should try to regain your inner balance and harmony and remember why you started at first place. You should try to understand what makes you happy. Only then, you will be able to move forward with a more rapid pace and in the right direction of joy.
Sometimes, it’s worth being idle, taking time to put off your work and just lay down, breath deeply, be present and grateful for the things you already have, It’s important to realize that your worth is not measured solely by your success. It’s easy to lose yourself in the constant race for achievements, yet, the only realms where one can lose himself expecting to get joy are art and intense human emotions.
Of course, I could make my article more scientific citing a plenty of research by prominent professors, but I simply won’t because, in some cases, personal experience and stories can be much more meaningful and compelling.
Wish you all a year full of precious moments and real joy!